I was just looking over yesterday's post (about feelings !) and found an "imperfection" - a typo, likely! There is extra spacing between one paragraph and the next. And yes, I was tempted to just edit it this morning!
And...if you hadn't noticed it, you can check out the blog post by clicking this link and find it!
You will see that I did NOT "fix" it.
Well, earlier this morning, I was reading about "perfectionism" - that trait that can be both a blessing and a curse. I remember describing myself as a perfectionist in early job interviews, typically outlining both sides of the coin - it helped me do "high quality work", but also sometimes got me hung up on details, working to the last minute to get everything "perfect". I soon realized that, even though I was being offered jobs, I wasn't sure if describing myself as a perfectionist was a selling feature for hiring me or not? So, I stopped describing myself that way and worked to change this aspect of myself. Not editing the typo after publishing the last post is one way I continue with this practice - accepting "good enough", because it is!
So, what's the problem with perfectionism if you still get things done on time? Well, nothing in the practical sense, because if you are completing things on time to a "high" standard, people will come to see you as being someone who consistently puts out high quality work. But in the "INTRA-personal sense" (how you may feel about yourself), it can mean that you think that you have to be perfect in order to be important, valued and cared for.
This is mildly troubling in the context of a "work" situation, but in a family situation, this is painful. If I were to agree with the sentence, "I am not important, valued and cared for by my family unless I am perfect.", I would be accepting a lifetime of feeling unimportant, unvalued and disconnected from those I care most about. That's unacceptable.
Letting go of perfectionism - as a personal adjective or a way of life - frees you to feel connected to those around you. And when YOU let go of perfectionism in yourself, you give your children permission to let go of it as well....which means you all have the opportunity to experience feeling important, valued and connected to one another. That's even better than perfect!
How can you let go of perfectionism for yourself - and your children - today?