So, we dipped into 'shame' in yesterday's post.
Parents experience it.
So do our kids.
Empathy is the antidote to shame. Being seen, heard, and understood without judgement and getting a sense that the other has "been there too" allows us combat shame and allow us to experience dignity and self-compassion for being human.
When they're in shame, kids need parents to help them experience dignity, self-acceptance and self-compassion...through empathy. When in shame, they need you to see, hear and understand them. Without judgement. With a sense that you may have "been there too" (because we all go there from time to time) and will "be with" them in these difficult moments. No matter what.