Yesterday's discussion about "self-regulation" left off with the understanding that "co-regulation" is how children learn to "self-regulate" their attention, emotions, moods or behaviours, often in combination!
So how is a parent supposed to "co-regulate" their child?
Remember when they were babies and you heard them cry? You interpreted - goodness only knows how - what those cries meant. Or you took the time to figure it out. Were they hungry? Tired? In need of a diaper change? Under the weather? And, depending on what you determined they needed, you figured out what they needed you to do. You fed them. Helped them sleep by rocking or cuddling them. Changed a diaper. Got them to a doctor. You regulated them - their emotions, mood and behaviour - by meeting their needs.
When you met their needs, they stopped crying and were likely eating, sleeping, cooing contentedly, or starting to feel better. They started to know that they could depend and rely on you to take care of them - to recognize when they were in distress and step in to help.
So how could you apply what you knew then to helping them now that they're older and able to talk to you?