Thoughts on fostering growth through empathy
- a blog for parents -
So, I'm writing 3 days in a row! This plan is working....so far.
If it doesn't, I'll review and revise either the goal or the strategy. That's self-management - the best way to step into improving performance, and move towards achieving a goal - at work. It's what people do to get better at whatever they want to get better at.
So how would this process apply to parenting?
As a parent, you can get better at listening to your kids by setting a goal to do that. You can learn to stay calm even when your kids can't by setting a goal to do that. You can create daily routines that support family functioning by setting a goal to do that.
Then you need a strategy to try out - one based on what clinicians call "best practices" would be ideal - and see how it goes. You adjust your plan as you need to. Then you practice self-management (the process of setting a goal, identifying a strategy, giving it a try, and seeing how it goes, and adjusting your goal or strategy as needed) until this becomes your way of thinking and problem solving.
This approach is optimistic, models a growth mindset, and is highly respectful and compassionate for oneself. It is a way to approach problem solving with a sense of calm.
Once you master the skills of "self-management" in your own life, you're ready to dive in and help your child learn and apply this to their lives.
WARNING: Chances are, as you're applying this process to your life, your children will be noticing and learning through your example ;)