Did you try to speak to yourself in a kinder, gentler way yesterday? What did you hear yourself saying? Were you able to be more compassionate with yourself when things did not go the way you had hoped?
If you're anything like me, that harsh voice (your inner critic!) is hard to quiet when you're in the midst of turmoil. It can get ahead of you and offer perspectives that are not only mean, but plain untrue. And that's not helpful.
When you think about approaching improving your ability to be more compassionate with yourself (and that is the first step to be able to be more compassionate with your children), a good way to begin is to try to self-manage your learning and applying this skill - remember the acronym S.I.G.H.S. and begin by setting a S.P.O.R.T.Y. goal.
It may need to be a small first step from where you potentially are today (noticing) to pausing and coming up with an alternative - one that is kind and true. For example, I could set a goal like, "When I catch my inner critic saying unkind things to myself, I will pause, take a deep breath and think of what I could say that would be both kind and true." So if you notice yourself saying, "That was foolish!", you would stop, breathe, and think about intentionally saying something like, "That was really unfortunate. It's frustrating to have to deal with this right now."
Give it a try.
Because compassion (for your child, your spouse, your friends and family, all beings, the world) begins with YOU.