Thoughts on fostering growth through empathy
- a blog for parents -
Sometimes self-care tasks can feel as rushed and hurried as all the other tasks in the day. Tasks like bathing and washing one’s face can be pleasurable, rejuvenating experiences, or they can be as frustrating and stressful as everything else. So much depends on how hurried the experience feels.
Having enough time to do the task in a calm way (e.g. to enjoy the bath) can help us experience self-care as something that is pleasant and preferred rather than something to be avoided or resisted. Think “spa-like” instead of “get ‘er done” and you’ll have a pretty good idea of what it can look like.
When we consider what really rejuvenating self-care could look like for a child, that may be things like:
- having enough time to enjoy playing in the bubble bath;
- being able to go slow enough with dental care so it feels like "care" and not just another task to complete;
- enjoying the smell of the shampoo and the bubbles;
- enjoying the feel of the hair brush or how smooth your hair feels after it's brushed;
- taking time to play with the colours or textures of clothing;
Essentially, it's about going slower and more mindfully into things that seem mundane and routine - easily overlooked and under-appreciated.
Try creating rejuvenating self-care routines for yourself and your children so you can all be at your best – without having to head to the spa to recover from your daily life!