Thoughts on fostering growth through empathy
- a blog for parents -
dDo you feel like all you and your child do is argue? If you explained to her that the sky was blue, she would insist it was pink, but if you agreed with her, she’d tell you it was blue? I have had those kinds of days…..well, weekends, and weeks too, to be honest! Has anyone ever said that parenting is hard work? Because it is!
If you’re anything like me, you’ve found yourself going I circles, getting more frustrated with each turn and saying things in a tone and volume of voice you wish you could take back. But, sadly, once it’s out there, it’s done and there is no rewind button. But there is an OOPS button!
No, seriously! You can call an OOPS! Well, I should say, “O.O.P.S.” So, here is my introduction to how much I love acronyms. I learned to use them in high school to memorize just about everything, and, frankly, they work. Let’s try this one:
When you mess up (and we all will – over and over again, it seems), just:
Yes, your child may take delight in your discomfort as you O.O.P.S., but in the long run, there is nothing more healing for a relationship than an honest, authentic apology and a sincere effort to change what is harmful to both of you.
If you’re wanting to learn how to avoid stepping into those situations in which you need to O.O.P.S., consider signing up for a private “Attuned Caregiver” Workshop or add your name to the list for the upcoming online course (an educational, skills development portion of the “Attuned Caregiver” Workshop), L.E.VE.R.S. for Connection.
Until next week!