We can't always be calm and present. It isn't realistic. We're only human.
But it's at these times - when we're distracted, thinking about something else we need to take care of, focused on another agenda or have emotional experiences about events unrelated to the present moment - that we're most likely to say or do things that we might not say or do if we were calm and present.
It's at these times that we're likely to leave our children feeling unseen, unheard, or misunderstood....or even hurt and alone.
It's at times like this when we have a different opportunity. A chance to practice the art of the apology...and model humility, imperfection and renew (even strengthen) connection.